Language allows self reflection

I feel like the term 'language allows self-reflection' can be interpreted in so many different ways, just depends on how you actually look at it. You can literally take it for the exact words or you can go into a lot of thought about it. When i was reading and thinking about it I kind of came to the conclusion that by our ever evolving language we look at ourselves in a different way, whether it be good or bad. Certain words can show how we feel about ourselves or about one another. When i was discussing this with other classmates we came to the conclusion that we label ourselves by what we consider important culturally. For example we look at magazines or hear on t.v. the words skiiny/fat, pretty/ugly, single/together.  When you look at these words theres not really an inbetween therefore society is almost forcing people to decide which category they fit in to. When you are forced to decide which category you fit into , you are accepting into cultural expecations "norms" and that is going to affect your self esteem. Why give into what other people label you as and think they are right. People need to figure out who they are on their own and allow growth by what they think of themselves and no one else.